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Is my friend TA for twerking in front of minors?

Is my friend TA for twerking in front of minors? - The Lemmy Club

So, I’m embarrassed to write this, and as shitposty as this sounds, it’s true. So, my (22F) friend, “Oskar”, (24M) got invited to a party for his dad’s friend’s daughter (15F) “Maria”. There were some adults there but mostly teens, Maria’s friends. There was a dancefloor, and Oskar shouted “EVERYONE LOOK AT ME!” according to what he told me, and started shaking his ass and twerking in front of the girls. He got kicked out of the party and everyone was pretty annoyed with him, saying it was disgusting and Maria said he was being a pervert. Even if he was just being silly, it wasn’t received well. Was he TA for twerking in front of teen girls? My friend Kylie (18F) thinks that was weird and I would never twerk like that but I don’t do much “vaguely sexy” stuff anyway.

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dandelion 2h ago

… he was booted from a party for his lewd behavior, I don’t know if that qualifies as “asshole” - but yeah, he did something socially unacceptable - where is the ambiguity?

Understandable

I don’t know if he’s an asshole, but he clearly didn’t put much thought into what he was doing and how it would be perceived. If you’re with underage people, the safe bet is to not be doing anything that could be considered sexual or inappropriate. Think before you act.

Yeah, true, thanks

I think this is the kind of situation where you need to know your audience.

Because I’ve absolutely known teenagers (and their parents) who would have thought that was hilarious and had no issues with it.

And I’ve known teenagers who would have been incredibly uncomfortable with it, and whose parents would run you out of town with torches and pitchforks for pulling something like that.

And of course situations where the kids are totally cool with it and the parents aren’t or vice-versa.

I’m not much of a dancer, so I probably wouldn’t be twerking in any context, but if I was, it’s not the kind of move I’d bust out unless I thought it would be well-received by the people present.