@BalooUriza Can't say I remember, but it can't have been more than 10. At one point you may or may not find something to speed it all up, like a heavily armed car or a helicopter, so your experience might be different.
I'm not sure how far you've gotten and don't want to spoil anything, but I've ignored some quests because, as you said, I was pretty paranoid when dealing with some people there.
@BalooUriza Appreciate the suggestion, but I'm afraid my avoidance of such servers is intentional. I used to play the previous entry in this game series with a larger unit, both as a rando and as a member, and eventually grew tired with the drawbacks of such numbers and sick with the attitude of some people, which is bound to appear at large enough servers.
Besides, we have a finely tuned modset and I'd hate to have to give up parts of it, that would be like playing a worse game. I don't want to sound snobbish, but FPS or military games aren't my absolute fav genres and I only play Arma because my friends do. We found our sweet spot of what works best for us and it looks like we'll just keep playing Forgotten Few until Arma 4.