Don't let people know they are intersex, they'll turn gay. This was the whole rationale for surgery-at-birth and secrecy-for-life.

#intersex

I had real health issues from being intersex, which did not include anxiety about being a proper man. I had hypogonadism and severe joint issues that should have had treatment as part of my condition, but the same medical ideology that got me operated when I was little also required glossing over any issues later in life. After all, a frank conversation about my endocrine problems could have undermined my carefully constructed masculinity.
@SecondUniverse I'm sorry you were treated so badly and how difficult things have been.