One mentality that really bothers me, is an uncritical assumption of how behavior is received by others, or at least whether it's effecive.
Often not even the question of "do I find this appealing/pleasant" and especially not "why would others react positively".
Only "confirmation bias" rationalisations on a kitchen sink (evolutionary) psychology level.
One big example is how people "behave like a wannabe influencer" on social media.
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People spam hashtags without considering what for, people act like they try to farm engagement without a goal, people talk like a corpratised PR account, seemingly without considering the purpose of this choice of words.
For example:
Why would this hashtag make more people see your post?
Do you follow it, would you look it up, do you think other people are following it or looking it up?
Another big one that's currently bothering me is the ubiquitous use of "AI"-images.
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What's the purpose of this image?
Do you think it looks good and represents you and your post well?
If you were better at drawing, how much time and effort would an image that looks like this have been worth for you?
Would you appreciate someone elses post more, be more willing to read their blog or article, if it was represented with such a "sloppy", low quality, obviously low effort image?
How much do you even think for yourself instead of just uncritically following others?
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I also get the impression, that being very different from the norm and socially excluded can make you fall into this trap more easily of just assuming what others are like.
Because you yourself are not a good indicator for what others are like, but you also lack the reference from others.
Important factors here are curiosity for and willingness to empathise with others.
And unfortunately many aren't willing to reconsider their assumptions, especially if a lot depends on them.
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What if this hashtagspam won't make them reach a large audience?
What if those "AI"-images weren't the missing piece of allowing them to finally make a career out of, for example their small Blog, postcast or YouTube channel?
I find it especially disappointing, when people "within the community(s)" engage in this shutting off to reality.
And I also find it disappointing, when others tolerate and sometimes, at least indirectly enable this behavior.
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hauch