As a young trans person in the stone age before the internet, I was relieved to meet a small group of trans women. I had allies in my transition! But I was also different to them. They said I was "a natural" - aside from my voice, my face and body was really passable. I only needed a little electrolysis on my face. I was so lucky.

From my side, I saw how they had managed to fit into the male sphere successfully. Maybe I had a "lucky" body, but I felt their path was more valid - they had succeeded as males, and chosen despite that to be their authentic selves. I felt like a failure looking for a way out.

Learning I am intersex started with my very earliest memory (of genital surgery as a toddler), but it took five decades to actually say I am intersex, and even now I still struggle with it.

https://interactadvocates.org/being-trans-and-intersex-taught-me-to-love-myself/

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