"If you feel neglected and abused, it is very easy to neglect and abuse yourself." I'm watching a video, and yesh I used to be in that neglected and abuse myself, but that has been over 15 years ago...

I fight to defend myself, but most of the time, people witnessing my self defence often double down and abuse me some more, calling me hostile, vindictive, manipulative... when my real intent is to defend myself and not take their abuse anymore.