AnarchistArtificerAm I a good rule?
empireOfLove2normalize use of the gender neutral “bitch”
Especially when referring to the person dominating you, that’s bound to result in some fun >:3
SharkWeekNever had that happen … it’s been too long since I had a bratty sub, maybe I should get one
That’s … not a good opener if you want to find yourself a real Domme.
You should be more respectful, at least to begin with.
I’ve found a cocky grin with a “hey” goes really far when hitting on dommes irl. But I also have fuckboi energy so it fits the vibe.
For any fellow subs reading this, you hit on dominant women like any other woman. When it comes time to flirtatiously joke around, then you can make some jokes about being submissive, but you want to have the situation felt out enough that you’re confident that she’s flirting back and that she’s receptive to such jokes. You never want to come off as a pushy sub, a lot of dommes have bad experiences with them (hell, even I, a sub, have had one)
Exactly. Though if you’re being a good little worm you shouldn’t need to make jokes about being a sub for her to know what the deal is.
Unfortunately for me, many people read extroversion and confidence as dominance, so i have to be quite clear how easy it is to bring me to my knees and that no I really don’t switch
Big time feels.
Also apparently (in my experience) being a male means I’m automatically in charge all the time :(
Yeah that sucks, I really wish people were less assumptive about role by gender
Ha! That’s a good point - I’m on the flip side, socially I’m quiet and introverted, and I’ve had to lay down the law a couple of times due to crossed wires
Yeah my domme is like that. It’s funny because I’ve come to associate short, introverted, and quiet/awkward women in the community with dominance, but I know that isn’t the stereotype yet lol
I’m not really relevant to your interaction but I thought it was a little cute. Not tactful, but the spirit was there.
If I wanted to write a similar message like yours, I’d probably have done it like this:
Let’s say I were to call you a “bitch”. What would your purely hypothetical response be? 🥺
That’s:
- less direct
- playful (“If I were to insult you” is a very fun way to tease AND pretend to be an innocent little angel)
- probing the water to see if they’re interested
At least in my opinion. I’m terrible at flirting though so you may want to evaluate this yourself.
Skullgrid
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TheTechnician27“Diane? Diane, please.”
People will attribute masculine and feminine gender to ‘master’ and ‘mistress’ respectively, but I think master would be the ‘neutral’ pick here.
Or you can shuck the dynamic with: owner, divine, ruler, royal, liege, or any number of ranks with which you attribute subservience! :3
Assistent (to the) manager
KairuByteYeah I have to second the “master” as a gender neutral. People always think of it as masculine, but there is no feminine alternative for most uses of master. You aren’t your dogs mistress, for example.
I’m not seeing the problem with ‘mistress’. Wiktionary cites the very first meaning as: “A woman, specifically one with great control, authority or ownership”, and provides an example sentence: “She was the mistress of the estate-mansion, and owned the horses.” You know, the same way as ‘master’ was used.
Apparently I’ve read more than my necessary share of US literature about the slavery times (considering I’ve never been to the US), because I have no trouble imagining a matron commanding the slaves.
Moreover, further down Wiktionary explicitly cites ‘dominatrix’ as another meaning of ‘mistress’.
It’s not that they are looking for a feminine version of master, it’s that they want a gender neutral version. Which master already fills. As do any number of other options the person I replied to mentioned.
Yeah, that’s sort of what I landed on. Not “master” because that also feels weird for different reasons, but “Sir”. It makes me feel like a Captain in Star Trek (though I’m not sure yet whether that’s a good thing or a bad thing)
Oh yes, calling me “liege” is going to be amazing once I stop laughing.
cloudskaterWhoever uses that one needs to put on a British accent whenever they use it, even in the middle of sex. Sorry, it’s a requirement, I don’t make the rules.
What do you think about steward?
I think steward comes across slightly more like a ‘head servant’ type rather than a title of someone you (as a sub) are giving yourself to. You could maybe have fun with some roleplay elements in that, but for me SFF books have ruined the title as one which I would ‘worship’.
My owner likes Mx and mxtress
I’m not saying don’t use others, I was just offering ones that I’ve been told to use. :3 If they work for you, go for it!
jjjMaybe an extension of Mx, Ms, Mr: Mixtress? (I suppose the “ess” is what makes it seem feminine) Or just “Mx. Name”, like how “Mr. Bond” can feel like a single term in the James Bond movies. (Mx. pronounced “mix” feels right here)
Let’s see:
- Mistress
- Mister
The end should be changed in stead. You can do the X thing: Mistrex (or Mistrix to keep the “e” part pronounced as “ih”). Or change it another way: Mistro, Mistrez?
Ooh, this is a cool way to come at the problem. I am surprised I didn’t think of this, as I do rather like the title “Mx” (even though I don’t use it myself — I use Ms.)
sp3ctr4l
GrailSome people I know have been using “sophont”, as their version of this
“Am I a good e n t i t y ?”
Genunly tho, I call my non-biney partner a good bean in the same way one would call someone a good boy/girl. Because they is. They is best bean~
I think “good bean” is my favourite non-joke option that’s been mentioned in this thread
I also love being called bean :)
Owner/pet is very neutral~
Or admin/user
“Or admin/user” Oh, I love this. One day I’m going to sub for a techy dom(me) and it’s going to be so funny to see how they react when I call them admin
I’m a techy switch, mostly bottom (I don’t like the terms “sub” and “dom” that much)… sorta? I just like being loved until suddenly my brain goes “OKAY thanks for all that, but its high time you get loved on so give me you~” and I don’t over think it. My partners know me for just being like “Hey. Hey, you. The one with the face. Imma kiss it. Ur mine now. Thanks. I luv u. Dorkass.” Again I don’t over think it, I just follow my dumb heart.
What was the comment about? Oh yeah I like computers so I’m totally gonna sudo apt purge touchstarvation on my partners next time I visit them. Purge that shit good, leave no trace. Arson.
I’m going to upload my public key into you and turn you into a seedbox
When did we stop saying “slut?”
Don’t get me wrong, I am definitely down to be called a good slut in the right contexts, but sometimes I find myself craving a softer tone than that, for contrast
I guess I could call you a soft slut
That’s comes off oddly wholesome to me.
Cuddle slut is also a good option
The equivalent would actually be “am I a good child?”
…which also sounds questionable.
Let’s consult David Shrigley: ‘I am a Good Person’.
I Am Good, by David Shrigley
from the album Shrigley Forced To Speak With Others
That song is one hell of a trip
David Shrigley — Shrigley Forced To Speak With Others [2006, spoken word] - Lemmy.World
English/Scottish artist David Shrigley had a spoken track at the end of nearly every compilation in the ‘Late Night Tales’ series, so they published an album of his own. Aside from poetry and writing, Shrigley is known for drawings, photography, animation, and sculpture. Kingsley, the mascot for Scottish football team Partick Thistle: [https://lemmy.world/pictrs/image/66aa25b7-ac81-4142-8420-9af2283018f6.jpeg] ‘Really Good’ at Trafalgar Square: [https://lemmy.world/pictrs/image/48dba507-fa4c-4f25-b9f8-b59a7d29d4d8.jpeg]
Cevilia (they/she/…)Mattress. That’s a gender-neutral dom, according to at least one enby I know. “Yes Mattress.”
It also helps remind them not to take things too seriously. :)