Can we put "how much time do you spend worrying if you are being misunderstood?" on the list of autism diagnostic questions?

Being misunderstood is my greatest fear in life, & I'm pretty sure autistic trauma is why.

"How often do you feel like you need to clarify things you say with very specific language?"

Here's a good one: "Do people often claim that you said something which you *definitely* did not say & get mad at you, even though you chose your language very specifically to try to make your meaning *abundantly* clear?"

"Do conversations with a single individual sometimes feel like a game of 'telephone' because the other person keeps incorrectly paraphrasing things you say?"

I have no idea how many hours of my life I have spent explaining to people that I didn't say the thing that they are saying that I did, but it's fucking stressful as hell.

Among other things, people seem to think all words with an overlapping semantic range are interchangeable, so you'll choose to use one that is specific to what you mean & then they substitute a different word with significantly different connotations & don't even seem to notice.

One of the cruelest jokes on autistic people is that we are so frequently misunderstood that a lot of us develop a full on *obsession* with all the nuances of language & then our very carefully nuanced & intentional speech gets misinterpreted *anyway*, & it's like "what do you people want from me? I've spent my whole life constantly thinking about language & how it is used! How is it so hard to understand me?"
Different side of this same problem: sometimes when talking with an allistic person, you may quote their *exact words* back to them *verbatim*, & they will argue they didn't say that & get upset that you are being so "pedantic".
@artemis allistic folks also tend to get VERY UPSET when you treat them exactly the same as they treat you.