Amy MaybeI set my phone so it plays sad trombone when my mom texts me. 😂
Don't be the kind of parent whose adult child sets their phone to play sad trombone when you text.
When my mom gets a text, her phone plays a recording of "I'm Donald Trump, and I approved this message," so ...
At some point you realize that your parent sucks, it's not going to change, and being honest about it might help other people with sucky parents feel less alone.
Steve GisselbrechtOh man.
I have never said this to you even though I thought it really hard because you didn't necessarily seem ready to hear it, and I didn't feel like I had standing. But you seem ready, and I hope I don't offend you, when I tell you that you can just … not.
It hurts like hell to lose your parents, no matter how it happens. It hurts to stop loving them. It hurts when you're the one saying, Don't call me any more. ASK ME HOW I KNOW.
But it can still hurt less than the alternative.
And ending a bad relationship is painful and lossy but then you get to start getting over it.
You don't have to keep hurting yourself in an effort to spare someone else from pain they're doing nothing to avoid or ameliorate. That's not fair to you.
@stevegis_ssg I get it, and I've considered it, but it would just cause too much drama given that she and my brother and his family live in the same city and I want to maintain good relationships with them.
Maintaining a perfunctory relationship is just easier.
I'm sorry. And I really hope I didn't make it any worse. I'll shut up now but just know that you have ALL my sympathy.
@stevegis_ssg You absolutely did not! and thank you. 😊