We need to make informed choices
One of the things I consider when choosing a new recipe is how many different pots and bowls are involved, and how many things have to come together at the end; I like to minimize them to keep the amount of work and cleaning low. My wife has a knack for choosing ones that maximize those things, and there’s always so much more to do. I love a one-pot meal.

This is why the one who does the cooking should do the dishes.

When I am done cooking?

The only dishes are the plates we eat off of, and the utensils.

It is not difficult to clean as you go .

My wife somehow uses every single pot, pan, cutting board, and cooking utensil we own. Like good damn it was just a grilled cheese. What happened

So the rule should be that whoever cooks also cleans everything that can be cleaned before serving. The other person cleans up after you’re done eating.

I personally find that cleaning up afterwards is much harder even if there are fewer dishes, so it feels like a fair deal.