@licho @sounddrill @jalefkowit I understand where you are coming from. But this is a strawman. This is an edge case to the edge case. To the point that your argument seems very centrist, big tentish.

I used to grant people I know quite huge benefit of doubts. For sake of keeping a relationship. For sake of not making the drama, especially if those were my ex friends. And let me tell you, it doesn't end on them loving H.P. It doesn't bother them that JKR is hurting trans people. When told it, they double down. They do not even have will to change anything. So I can hardly call such asymmetric relationship a friendship. And, at the very end, it's their choice to either change their views, or to radicalise further.

Yeah, of course, this is a case by case basis. But if someone is repeatably and knowingly acting in a way hurting me, that relationship is toxic, and it's time to quit.

And look, here is the field I grow my benefits of doubts. It's barren.

@licho @sounddrill @jalefkowit
The notion that we are supposed to keep friends with people who have awful wiews is very bothering to me. When their wievs become too awful to tolerate? What do they need to do in order for us to say "enough"? How can I keep friends with someone who hurts me or my friends? Or even strangers?

I had a friend once, he used to be very conservative politically and we quarreled about that a lot. At some point he decided to join an anti-refugee march in my hometown. At the same time, he kept friendly relationship with another friend's boyfriend, who happened to be a refugee.
Is this enough? He was nice to this guy, so maybe the nazi march was just something I should glance over?

I had another friend, a very close friend. Las Spring she went for a volunteering gig to Israel, to help some farmer pick strawberries, because his three sons were in the army. So, what to do? Are these views awful enough to say goodbye? Or should I disregard the fact that she went to help some guy, because people who should have helped him, were away, killing innocent babies?

And should I keep close to my uncle, who's homophobic and transphobic, but he cried happy tears when he saw me after many years in another country? He's after all my closest relative on the side of my deceased father. And he loves me, clearly he loves me so much, the only thing I need to do is pretend that he's just a guy, just my uncle, who never does anyone any harm, but taught his two sons to hate LGBT+ people?

Sorry for the rant, but see - these are just normal people. They never harmed anybody, they're nice and all. And yet...