timberwraith8h ago

One of the things I ran into in my transition years was:

"OK, things were messed up for guys but things are REALLY messed up for women. It's not a party of happiness and joy over here, you know. You're in for a bumpy ride."

Or sentiments like this.

It's decades later and I can say this with experience:

Yeah, shit's messed up on both sides of the sex/gender fence but for whatever reason, I'm far more comfortable/skilled at dealing with *this* version of messed up.

By a wide friggin' margin.

Show threadNowhere Girl8h ago

@timberwraith I had very few cis women try to tell me being a woman was terrible and I would learn to regret it, and the ones who did say things like that seemed to be miserable people in general.

They seemed annoyed that I wasn't dissuaded from it and particularly when I said I could no sooner stop being a woman than they could.

Show threadtimberwraith8h ago

@gwynnion "It'll be easier to stop being yourself."

Sure. I'll get right on that. 🙄

Show threadNowhere Girl8h ago
@timberwraith Yeah, basically. Most of the women I talked to about it early on were supportive even if, I suppose, they weren't fully persuaded or convinced that I knew what I was doing. Heh.
Show threadNowhere Girl8h ago
@timberwraith But the whole "it's hard being a woman" thing, I sympathized with, obviously, but I was also like, "I don't think people can denigrate me or my intelligence or take advantage of me or hold me to unrealistic standards any more than they already have."
Show threadtimberwraith

@gwynnion I hear that. Years of hating myself in childhood allows me to hear that. [sigh]

For me, years later, what comes to mind is:

All of the crap that I've gone through as a woman pales in comparison to the suffering and misery of pretending to be someone I absolutely was not.

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