I told my out-of-town friend that we couldn't hang out in my apartment because I'd just done laundry and hung it over all the seating. This isn't completely false-- I do have a bunch of underwear out to dry-- but more importantly, my Christmas tree is still up.
@fesshole normalise letting friends see mess.

Normalise allowing friends to see tasks not done.

Normalise accepting that we can't do everything alone.

Normalise helping each other get things done.