Because mastodon is like a 99% male audience, I will say this: if you have an aging mother you are in relationship with and care about, do NOT make her go through medical stuff alone. I am skilled & mean enough to fight through medical stuff and even so you would not believe how bad it is. Just accept that you cannot imagine.
I talk to a lot of people's aging moms and they are abandoned & alone even in nice families. I don't care how awkward it is, you have to try to ask them about it.
i've been dealing with my mom's medical and financial stuff for a few years now. it's insane. the US medical industry and financial institutions really do seem to want the elderly to just die but give them all their money first.
my sister and i tag team being on the phone when she's at the doctor's and we both review all visit reports and talk to the doctors and insurance as necessary.
i truly pity elderly folks that don't have someone to assist them with all this, someone fully in their corner.
Cat Hicks
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