Ms. Que BanhMar 15

I'm laughing so hard at what my Mom just said to me, while asking her if she's still up for sharing her lived experiences from just after we fled Saigon, to two refugee camps, to being sponsored by a Canadian group of church folks to adjusting to life in Canada, in first few years.

Mom said: I remember that you pooped a lot....a lot more than your little brothers. Your Dad called you a toddler shit factory. We'd be rich, if we could have sold your Saigon baby Buddha poop.
What?!? 🤣😂😅 My parents actually discussed this, in depth, before fleeing Saigon.

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Show threadMs. Que BanhMar 15
I told my Mom that I'm making myself a new tshirt that says: Toddler Poop Factory 1975 & putting my parents names on the back with, born by: their names 😂✌️
Mom's like - I will literally kill you, while you're sleeping, if you do that!
Me: No, you won't because you cry when a single bee is dying! You're not that murderous.
Mom: You little shit!
Me: I am your little shit 😀
Show threadMs. Que BanhMar 15
Hey, parents of young, neurodiverse kids! Your ND kid may grow up like me too. It's both a blessing & a curse, depending on how you nurture your child 💗✌️😊
Show threadMs. Que BanhMar 15
My parents nurtured my natural weirdness. I'd probably not still be here - had they listened to folks who told them that having a disabled child is a lifelong curse & to murder me - if they wanted a more bountiful life. My parents would never have killed me. They both loved me, their 1st born child, immensely. My parents saved me from being sacrificed, despite having been the fatty Saigon Buddha baby - once I was struck with polio - my parents found out, the hard way - most people won't support parents of disabled kids.
Show threadMartinMar 15
@PhoenixSerenity Yup, my parents lost a few friends when I came along and it took years for the rest of the relatives to acknowledge my existence. It's definitely a thing.
Show threadMay Likes TorontoMar 15
@mcourcel @PhoenixSerenity And look at you now. You both turned out great.
Show threadMs. Que Banh
@mayintoronto @mcourcel Genes definitely mattered with overcoming.
Mar 15 at 3:59amWeb
Show threadMartinMar 15
@PhoenixSerenity @mayintoronto And parents that believed in us.