@ruthpozuelo Definitely agree on lowering the barriers, and a big focus of my own work!
"should be secondary when onboarding new people"
"big and stable enough"
I'd just feel pretty bad recommending even an established server where things may always go south, when people won't be easily able to migrate.
Big part of why I run my own server is that, after having to migrate from Twitter, I just wanted this to be my last social media account. Never have to worry about server mods feuding, or having my server shut down.
I do like Bluesky's concept of hosting just your data and letting others handle the rest of the social media stack, so maybe when this is implemented here, I might consider that for myself, and I'd also feel more comfortable suggesting others communities to join.