nobody tells you when you have a kid you're going to need to learn social masking all over again cause he's gonna run up wanting a hug from some random five-year-old and you're gonna be like "sorry random kid and other parent, I have zero idea what to do in this situation, I only learned how to like go to the bank and shit, can we all just pretend he's trying to hug his way into opening up a money market account"

@horsewizard

I have no advice for that! At that age, my daughter was completely unwilling to interact with other kids whom she wasn't already friends with (and disagreed with me that this is this process by which one becomes friends, lol).

She's definitely super huggy at 5, but she mostly remembers to ask first, and her girl friends are all super huggy, too, so the other parents and I are just kind of in mutual states of amusement and embarrassment and wanting to go home.

@genericgeekgirl I wound up telling him he could ask for a hug and it was okay if the answer was no, which is not super actionable for him until he learns to say any of those words lmao

other kid: no (explanatorily) I'm not feeling well
me: oh no!
him: I have a cough
other parent: you're getting OVER your cough
other kid: [coughs in my face]

do I *have* to socialize the baby, or