forestineliving in an all adhd household is like
you're sitting there getting ready for your day and suddenly everybody is trying to clean up coffee that spilled all over everything
i actually wrecked my laptop about 10 years ago when i was getting ready to move for grad school and totally killed it. and everybody was like
well you shouldn't have done that
oh well you picked up your computer wrong afterwards
etc etc i am the fool
of course i didn't INTEND to sit down and spill an entire cup of coffee on my computer until it was spilling out the ports, but people like to feel like they would never
the worst thing about the adhd tax is smarmy people saying "i simply would not have done that" and they can all go to hell
sonja@forestine with my ex, i would TRY to help them with their adhd tax and they kept saying it was more my problem than their problem. and then you watch someone struggling every single day because they lose their keys and phone and wallet.
one day i got an hour lecture about how it was my fault that they forgot their wallet when they left the house because i asked a question.
@emily_rugburn i'm not sure what to say, do you want me to answer on behalf of your adhd ex or
maybe this would have been worth making your own thread
@forestine i guess for me, its difficult to watch people struggle with these things. and i know the tax all too well (well, the autism tax 🤭)
@emily_rugburn ah thanks for clarifying. yes the tax is very cruel
@forestine my tax is the meltdown i have when someone moves my things from the place that i always have them and i have no idea where it is and im supposed to be at an appointment in an hour and it takes 30 minutes to get there and what if theres traffic or an accident or the signals are off or the car needs gas or the car doesnt work or i hit a deer on the way...😭
@emily_rugburn oh no! too many variables, it's like dominoes
@forestine i feel like adhd is worrying on the front end of things and autism is worry about the back end of things....
so ppl w autism have everything planned ahead of time so we dont have to worry about all the extraneous variables and adhd only can go with the action and just worry about the extraneous variables when they show up. this is just my thought about it 😊
Moss Wizard@forestine @emily_rugburn Whoops! All Variables ™️