A lot of the time we do know, but we’re terrified of getting it wrong and getting rejected and maybe worse.

after being rejected 100 times in a row for “ew gross i don’t associate disabled people” when after a couple dates i let them see me take a blood pressure pill (hadn’t even let them see any of my massive collection of scars except my arm and face, which i can’t exactly hide without michael jacksoning) you kind of just start making fairly accurate assumptions about the women in your society

Been there. Not blaming women either. Men are equally ableist.