ageedizzleWhat’s your most controversial opinion?
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HubertManneim fine with trans people and non discrimination but my whole life sex and gender terms were one and the same for me and most folks in everyday language. The idea of identifying pronouns for myself seems laughable to me. Im a big believer in simple solutions. Got some temp work at a place with genderless bathrooms that had the full floor to ceiling doors. Its a bit wierd to wash my hands with girls but its not like im naked. There is all sorts of language things going out of fashion (online) and folks are like just learn it but look despite decades of school my spelling and grammar are atrocious because habits don’t change easily and no one is even forcing me to study or anything now. On top of it, like it or not for the internet folks, it has no bearing in the outside world which is still basically jugging along at its own pace. It will over time for sure but it won’t happen as quickly as early adopters would like. Also I pretty much don’t like any type of censorship of fictinoal things. Reality and fiction are two different things to me. Although modern ability to fake things is making identifying something as real as tough. I don’t want claims of it being high end fakes as letting folks get away with crimes.
Im fine with trans people and non discrimination but my whole life sex and gender terms were one and the same for me and most folks in everyday language. The idea of identifying pronouns for myself seems laughable to me.
I think telling someone your pronouns is fine, and if you tell me I will make an attempt to use them (I will remember exactly as well as I will remember your name, which is to say at least till the end of your next sentence). I have NEVER met anyone who had a problem with this system, and I run in circles that have a very much above-average amount of gender stuff going on.
And if you DO get upset because I didn’t proactively ask for your pronouns, instead of just telling me, then we’re really not going to be talking much anyway.
Which is pretty much how I feel. Its fine if someone gives pronouns and I will do my best with it but it was not something historically I had to sorta tag people with so its a significant mental load comparatively. Its like all of a sudden having to remember everyones favorite cake or ice cream as a matter of course. That being said it being in a signature line of the email makes that pretty arbitrary but that being said its kinda annoying to have to find emails from people you talk to to see what the thing is for them. Don’t get me started on people who don’t use or ditch their signature in communications.