Wouldnât quite call this âgigachadâ behavior, but itâs good and healthy to not jump on literally anyone who offers, even if you arenât particularly interested. I suspect anon sees this as âgigachadâ because theyâre steeped in manosphere/incel ideology (unsurprising for a 4chan user).
Definitely autistic.
Yeah I donât associate being rude to someone that is awkwardly expressing an interest in you, cool, or alpha, or whatever the fuck gigachad is, itâs just a dick move, that will make that person expressing interest lose confidence to ask out the next person, which is a problem in todayâs society more than ever with online dating kind of poisoning the well.
There is a nice way to say no, and autism is no excuse for not being nice there.
I suppose thatâs true, but I know many people think their hints are obvious, when they arenât to a great many of us, at least in the moment after the fact we might realize someone hinted at us. People are dense at times, not just autists either. So maybe they thought they had been clear in their rejection of their attention but it wasnât picked up on?
I mean I have been hit on by people Iâve no interest in, and Iâve never been so rude. Iâve also asked people out and had them rudely say no when a more polite way would have been appreciated, and they might have thought hints were clear, but they werenât to me at all. And Iâm not alone in being slow to take the hints, men in general are slow to get such hints by woman they are rather known for it as I understand it.
If she asked if she was annoying, she knew on some level.
When I was younger, I used to get so annoyed at hinting disinterest rather than outright stating it, but I eventually realized that if someone is interested and doesnât have barriers to getting involved, they wonât be coy about it. If they are busy but otherwise interested in a date when asked, theyâll usually say more than âI have plans that dayâ, like âbut Iâm free on x dayâ or âmaybe another time?â or âIâd love to go on a date with you but canât that specific timeâ.
If they are evasive at all about it, they are either not interested in general and are just trying to be polite (NOT really for your sake, so donât start about how youâd rather they be clear, itâs to protect themselves from the pieces of shit that get aggressive when they realize they donât have a chance), or they have other shit going on that complicates any interest (like itâs hard for them to schedule a date ahead of time because they are already in a relationship and need a good excuse to get away for a date).
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