Thinking about people experiencing Stigma and/or discrimination because they're polyamorous 
or practice some other Ethical non-monogamy .
The more I think about it, the more it's like thinking about the things in Sex at Dawn. Maddeningly 🐄💩 ways that patriarchy & Christianity have fucked people that make me want to scream.
The bible has ~8 passages that are all "Polygamy 👍" Polygamy is problematic, BUT it's also very much NOT monogamy, & yet…
#Polyamory #ENM
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The western world: laws, housing, healthcare, finance, etc. is ALL based around the concept of monogamy because (i presume) Christians are all "Yeah, well I'm ignoring that part"
Love two people? tough shit, only one of them can be on your insurance. Want to buy a house & have everyone contribute? Tough shit. Want to marry them both? Tough shit, oh and only one of them can visit you in the hospital.
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People get denied medical care because it's "wrong" to have multiple partners. Therapists frequently blame all your issues on having multiple partners - even if their love & support is the only thing keeping you afloat.
(See also blaming all medical problems on someone being fat.)
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Open's 2025 community survey https://www.open-love.org/blog/2025-community-survey-report
Showed that people are having to hide / elide hugely important portions of their lives at work for fear of loosing their job, not getting a promotion, being ostracized, etc.
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OPEN’s 2025 Community Survey report offers a detailed look into the lives, experiences, and challenges of non-monogamous individuals . This year’s survey was conducted as formal academic research in partnership with Dr. Amy Moors of Chapman University (IRB #26-13), and was made possible by support f
"What'd you do this weekend?" _should_ be an innocent casual question, but - just like queer people have been doing for ages - poly people have to hide away the truth, even if it was something innocent like "went to a concert with my metamour". If coworkers know they're married they have to fear being seen on a date with a partner they're not married to lest they be thought of as a cheater.
Same thing folks in queer & mixed-race relationships have had to deal with for ages.
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I hate that it's not just social perception, but massive legal and financial structures that are fucking over ENM people.
It feels like another flavor of systemic racism. The people in power don't notice because "doesn't effect me"
But - like racism & Black people (~14%) - there are literally millions of USians affected by this (~4-6%) .
If your co has 100 people then 4-6 of them practice Ethical non-monogamy & probably have to hide it.
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Millions of people _still_ having to hide loving relationships, being prevented from buying houses, having rights say over co-parented children, etc. etc. because they dare to love and/or share their life with more than one person.
Work is demoralizing enough. Having to hide your loving homelife from coworkers? That's just going to make it worse. Being worried about your partner of years because they don't have health ins & you can't add them to yours? SO many MH- things. 😿
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masukomi