École des Bro-Arts
You know, I've read a couple etiquette manuals for gay men (and several for Victorian women!) but one situation I have never really known how to handle is "Your lover is trying to make out with you while getting railed by a top he just met, and while the top seems nice you clearly are not interested in each other, and yet you are now making eye contact over the shoulders of the lover in the middle." How does one introduce one's self or properly acknowledge and defuse the tension?
Jan 26 at 2:11pmWeb
Show threadÉcole des Bro-ArtsJan 26
I've done both the informal "silent 'sup' nod" and the formal "Oh, James, this is my Sir, Kyle" "Very nice to meet you, James" "Likewise" and tbqh neither really quite felt right!
Show threadCodaJan 27
@aphyr Now, obviously this is an outside perspective, but: “Come here often?”
Show threadÉcole des Bro-ArtsJan 27
@coda putting this in cross-stitch behind my bar
Show threadNelson MinarJan 27
@aphyr @coda I'm thinking tramp stamp
Show threadElena ``of Valhalla''Jan 27

@aphyr if you haven't been properly introduced I'd say it would be pretty scandalous to start talking to each other, so I'd say that you should both continue to interact with your lover while ignoring the other person, until your lover does a proper introduction

while getting railed of course, I guess

ok, maybe the victorian etiquette manuals aren't the right place to look for an answer :D

(unless previously negotiated. but you need to have talked to each other to do so, so you need to have been introduc. no. wait.)

Show threadÉcole des Bro-ArtsJan 27
@valhalla Oh right, of course, a gentleman going to the bathhouse only attends with his chaperone, so as to make introductions.