Mom with the real questions
“Better hang on to it just in case” ~boomers
My parents rented a storage unit when my grandma passed because no one had room for her nice furniture. And it is nice furniture very well built - but no one is ever going to have the space. Let it goo.
I like those big cabinets in place of kitchen cabinets. Glass front makes everything look better, I don’t put curios in them. Plates, glasses, bottles, booze, whatever goes in them ends up looking good.
If it was something nice, they weren’t wrong. Everything manufactured today is fucking garbage.
You can get good furniture, it’s just really expensive.
So again, hanging on to a proven good item is the correct move.
Agreed. Can still be cut down or modified, and then painted to update it.
The style is wrong though. We have a minimalist modern space, so a big orange cabinet honestly just doesn’t fit. We are allowed to decorate the way we like without being held hostage by our parents and grandparents aesthetic preferences.
which is why I have a wood shop.

You need to look at the positive: this way they make more profit for the megacorporations manufacturing and selling them.

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If it was nice, they would be keeping it for themselves
It’s probably an easier decision to make when you were born early enough to own a big house
The table is never the issue. The problem are the impratical heavy and bulky chairs. I could put the table against a wall and use it as a countertop move it to the center once in a blue moon when I receive lots of people. But what should a do with chair to feel up a room?

I did this. The only thing I took from my grandparents when we had to sell was the dining table. Too many memories to let go, and it’s solid wood. Its a 4 seat table but expands to 6 if needed. Perfect size. Fuck those matching chairs though. Solid wood too, but my god, they are so bulky, heavy, ugly and uncomfortable. We went and got cheap, modern chairs instead, and it actually worked out really well.

My inlaws have a GIANT 10/12 person table with matching high back solid wood chairs that they beg for the family to take when they are gone. None of us will have space for it and will see it more than likely donated/dumped.

I am looking to replace my dining room chairs, and I just can’t find any that I actually like. It’s as if the general design of dining room chairs is unappealing. I’ve considered getting some comfy office chairs.

It should be noted that I use my dining room for tabletop gaming almost as much as actual dining.

Chairs are fucking expensive though. It’s always like “oh, this table is only 300” “yeah, but the matching chairs are 120 each”
Yeah and most of them are bad. So many people have matching chairs but such chair are too heavy to put easy in a place when you’ll sit confortably and they will fall over easily from lack of balance. The antique ones are balanced at least.
My grandparents had a table that could seat 24. It was insanely big, but made for some nice holiday memories.
I don't even have a room in my house that can fit 24 people.
Depends on how…. intimate you want to get.
It won’t fit between the hutch, buffet, and five corner cabinets.
In this economy, I’ll need it for firewood soon.
What are we burning?
It’s on the front page of Reddit now.
I was raised by my grandma but over to another country, she died and my dad and aunts got the house I grew up and everything. I never expected to inheritance anything anyway so it’s was no problem. When I came back for Christmas I joke that I did get anything, not even a bag of her ash. One of my aunts were like aww, is true, let me find something from here that you could take home and came back with a fucking 12 tomes British enciclopedia. I laughed my ass off and told her that she was crazy if she tough I was going to travel back with something I already have in my phone.
Those encyclopedia sets are worth their weight in gold. You shouldn’t expect digital services to always be around, you know?
They’re lovely pieces of furniture and yes absolutely better than IKEA fingerboard but there’s no way I can fit a 2.5m2 table into my 100m2 house.
I really don’t like how it’s so common nowadays for furniture to not even outlive one person. It became fashion thanks to IKEA. Fuck IKEA.
I mean, if you buy flat pack stuff, that’s what you get. You can still buy quality bespoke furniture made by skilled people.
Not as easily anymore. It used to be easy to find wooden furniture used for low prices. Not so much anymore.
The market has shrunk and the prices have gone up… there are still some good items on the second hand market, at times, depending on location.

Yep, there are small furniture manufacturers all over the place where I live. We bought our couch from one of them. $5k for a couch smaller than a sectional from costco. But it’s repairable has a long warranty and is much more durable and comfortable.

We also have a fine wood furniture place that does solid wood stuff. $10k for a bedroom set. I’ll stick with ikea until the kids move out.

I’ll stick with ikea until the kids move out

Yeah, this is it for us. I grew up in a home with a lot of “grandma’s heirloom dining table” type items that I was punished for bumping into, spilling on, etc. While I do believe in teaching kids respect, it seems like a lot of unnecessary stress for both parents and kids to use this stuff as your daily driver and we don’t have the space for special-occasions-only furniture.

My long term financial goal is to have all Amish hardwood furniture because that shit is niiiice and also it’ll probably outlast my future grandkids
I understand the hate of Ikea’s cheap furniture. They also have plenty of solid wood furniture as well. Maybe not multigenerational quality, but they do have plenty of buy it for life versions that have survived several moves.

Yeah, the trick is to look for the unfinished stuff. It’s no more expensive than their usual pressboard-and-veneer items; the only catch is that you have to paint it yourself.

That could be an advantage, though, since it means you can pick any colour you want.

I bought a dresser that actually came pre-stained in an orange color. We did a glass top on it to help protect it, and it looks new still to this day.

I have a big bread baker’s Hoosier cabinet in my kitchen. I’m not a baker, I’ve never had any use for it.

Very similar to this one, with a flour sifter, and slide-out porcelain steel table:

My older sister shipped it to me without asking me, and then told me it was coming about two days before it arrived. Our mom had just died, and my sister didn’t have room for it, but she “wanted it to stay in the family.”

It is a beautiful piece, solid oak, probably over 100 years old. So, I kept it. It just sits there, taking up space in my barely-big-enough kitchen. I expect when I die, my only son will sell it. I should probably just sell it now, my sister would hate me for it, though.

I should probably just sell it now, my sister would hate me for it, though.

I’m sure you could give her a discounted rate

I’ll take it
You should ship it back to your sister without telling her.
You could use it for something other than baking? That is a nice piece of furniture.

If I was in your place I’d put that cabinet in the living room lmao.

Maybe use the middle compartment as display for Lego and action figures.

Now that’s the kind of thing my wife would love to have. Maybe at some point we’ll take away someone else’s space occupier.

We’ve got a few pieces of furniture, the one in really not looking forward to is the musical instruments. We’re talking full grand piano, player piano, pneumatic uprights, etc. They are huge. There is no way my wife won’t want at least one, and I’m probably the only one who knows how to do the maintenance despite it being her parents stuff and she has a few siblings.

You probably already know this, but there is a collectors market for player pianos and other automated musical instruments. See AMICA in the US. (Not sure about non automated ones; heavily depends on the instrument.)
AMICA

AMICA was founded in San Francisco in 1963. Its goal has always been to introduce people from all walks of life to the beauty and value of automatic musical instruments. AMICA has prevented the destruction of many fine rare instruments that have been restored to their former glory.

Yeah everything is a player (including the piano), and aside from the instruments themselves there are hundreds of rolls - originals (which my kids saw how they are made with an old Mr. Rogers episode I put on for them), customs my FIL made of his own music, and some modern pop we’ve picked up for them.

And yep, AMICA is a great option, my FIL is a member still I think. We are definitely going to take at least one of them, I have a feeling it will be the big pneumatic upright. Which I’m prepping a controller conversion for to allow him to do midi with it to test playback before making a new roll. The controls all work but I need to replace one of the relays…

And now you know why that’s the one we’ll likely end up taking (and its also one of the bigger ones).

Dude, sell it. Someone else WILL want it and use it. You want money. And your sister will get over it.
I get it, family and all, but “wanted it to stay in the family" is a silly reason to inconvenience someone else.

A friend of mine lost his 4 generations old family home in some bushfires about 10 years ago. He will never admit it to his extended family but he says it was a blessing.

His house was full of shit that as nice as it was and the sentimental value of the huge dining table that great grandad built with the tree that got brought down in the storm in the top paddock in 32 was real. He felt like he couldnt change anything, couldnt sell anything and was stuck living in his grandparents house.

Perk of being in a big Irish family: when someone dies we all descend like vultures and I get like, a nice hat.
If a landlord can split a 100m2 apartment into five 20m2 studios, she needs to cut up the table and make 5 leaner, easier to implement, 2.4 person tables. Embrace the hustle grindset, mom.

A few years ago my wife and I decided to finish the basement. The first step was to clean it out, which involved going through all the junk that I had inherited from various family members. My mom always asserted that all of it was very valuable and CONSTANTLY checked that I still had it all and was taking good care of it.

I went through each item one by one and looked them up. Dishes, nick knacks, all of it. It took me hours. The highest value item was maybe $10. Several large and heavy boxes that I had been obligated to haul around to all of the places I lived for the last 30 years, as my mother constantly asked me about them. It was all worth maybe $100, if I made the effort to attempt to sell it. Which would have taken a lot of time as we’re talking dozens of fragile things. It just was not worth it.

I shoved it all into the trunk of my car and took it to the dump. My Mom died in 2011, so she wasn’t around to check up on all that crap.

God damn I was so pissed. 30 fucking years of hauling that worthless junk around probably cost far more than it was worth. My mother was so insistent that I even had it sitting around taking up space in my basement 12 years after her death. Just another one of her little power plays.

Glad you freed yourself from all the stuff. I had a similar experience clearing out my grandma’s hoarded house.

I am curious though, why take it to the dump instead of donating it to a thrift store?

Spite.

Honestly, it was all junk.

At least you got something out of it. Feeling good throwing it away
Luckily this is less of an issue in the future with “Ikea” or whatever
it’s furniture adapted to the different needs we have. little space, frequent moving. cheap furniture that only has to last until the next change in space usage renders it obsolete
it’s furniture adapted to the different needs we have. little space, frequent moving. cheap furniture that only has to last until the next change in space usage renders it obsolete