real life
Normal people behave differently in different environments. This idea is too complicated for moralists, though.
the kids at a birthday party are acting different than at their grandma’s funeral. they must be evil two faced liers.
…you guys are real?
nah, I’m complex
I’M NOT IRRATIONAL, YOU ARE!
we shouldn’t hook up, two complex people hooking up always ends up negative
a foursome on the other hand is always a positive
I’m the illusion of a chicken

You’re new pet name is “Dino dream”.

how are you doing Dinodream?

I had a friend who fell into the far right crowd, even though he’s a brown immigrant. He constantly post far right content on Facebook. But looking back, he’s had that streak in him and it was perhaps only matter a time that he finally succumbed.

I think it has to be an empathy thing.

My older brother hates black people and “mexicans” (he means anyone with brown skin)

For context: My entire family wasn’t born in the US… We are all immigrants…

He also try to taunt me like “when you grow up, you’re gonna be a loser and marry a [n-word] or a ‘mexican’ since you are a loser just like them”

What The Fuck?

This is the least crazy thing he did, when he was like 10 or 11 and I was 5 or 6, he used plastic zipties and tied me up.

What The Fuck?!?

Always picking on me.

He used to put these pin things on the floor with the sharp pointy thing facing upwards, as a “prank” so I would accidentally step on it and get hurt.

Like WTF is this psycopathy?

But you see my point right? Lack of empathy. That’s how people become right wing.

the opposite is also true. online I’m more talkative and confident, IRL I’m shy as fuck from lifelong trauma and masking. my online me and IRL me might as well be two different people.
Lemmy’s lack of total karma has only increased this effect for me. I just write whatever is on my mind because the Fediverse needs more stuff and there aren’t even digital consequences.

there are people who when let loose in an RPG are good because we would feel bad if we hurt an NPC’s feelings.

i think that’s the majority of people.

I treat online spaces like that. there’s no cost of being good, unlike IRL.

That’s not the opposite. It just the same thing in a different form. Offline you mask and online you don’t need the mask. Racist do the same exact thing.

The difference is that at their core they are deplorable and you are not. The masking is the shared trait.

yhea, it’s the same unmasking, one is just then being assholes and other is being good.
This is true not only about shitty people. There’s a lot of very nice folks on Lemmy who would face evil consequences for being honest about who they are in real life. Until then, there’s Blahaj.

Oh yeah if a maga-hat wearer was in front of me, I’d probably be scared to say anything anti-trump…

I’m non-white and foreign-born.