eli04

should I go back to my old job now that several people, some of them more knowledgeable than me have told me they don't understand my decision to quit it?

https://linux.community/post/3994428

should I go back to my old job now that several people, some of them more knowledgeable than me have told me they don't understand my decision to quit it? - Linux.Community

cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/3994427 [https://linux.community/post/3994427] > several months ago I wrote about leaving floor nursing for moving patients in beds. I also posted it would mean a 20% financial hit. > > Turns out the financial hit is 2%. I took the job. > > Several of my former colleagues, after seeing me now that I switched jobs cannot hide their disbelief and shock. Some of the things I’ve heard: “what a waste, you can do more.” “You are a RN and you choose to move beds?”, “Haven’t you worked with us?”, “Oh no, don’t tell me you’re moving beds now.” and more. > > I’ve always been very individualistic and never cared much about what others think about me. This new job means less stress and I can sleep better. > > But it’s not only other RNs who tell me this: doctors as well, very knowledgeable ones. > > Am I doing something wrong, when so many people, some of them much smarter than me tell me what I’m doing is stupid? > > Going back to my old job doesn’t mean going back to my old department, just back to floor nursing.

Dec 8 at 10:11amWeb
Show threadPommes_für_dein_BalgDec 8

the financial hit is 2%
This new job means less stress and I can sleep better.

Sounds like you made the correct decision.
But it’s your decision, not other peoples’. You are not obligated to do the hardest, highest-qualified or most demanding job you’re capable of. If you can make ends meet with less stress and do not feel bored, all is good.

Show threadsolrizeDec 8
Just be honest about why you quit and what you’re getting out of it, and that the pay at the new job is almost the same. Say you can think about going back if they offer you a big pay increase and other stress relief.
Show threadprotistDec 8
I think what you can take away from this is that you’re good at your work and respected by your colleagues. You don’t owe them anything though, and they don’t control you. If you’re satisfied with what you’re doing now, get used to confidently explaining why, and thank them for their praise.
Show threadNurse_RobotDec 8
My only concern would be your lack of advancement opportunity now. If you’re not going to need more money in the future, that’s not an issue.
Show thread9point6Dec 8

The point of life is to enjoy it

You seemingly made the choice to make your life less stressful for about the same compensation as you got before for a stressful job.

I don’t think you need to be particularly smart to understand that’s a pretty great trade off. Just from what you’ve written here, I completely understand your reasoning and it makes complete sense to me.

Your colleagues are giving crabs in a bucket energy. You never agreed to work harder than you need to, you don’t owe it to anyone.

Show threadValmondDec 8

It’s not like you can’t switch back one day if you feel the need.

Good luck on you finding a job compatible with your life!

Show threadamniotic druidDec 8
No, fuck em. If switching was just a 2% pay decrease, they probably just miss being able to underpay you that much and management has told them to try to get you back
Show threadpalordrolapDec 8

Your former colleagues see your potential but do not see, or choose not to see, the rest of you. The rest of you that's messy. The rest of you that cannot operate at a high level for long periods. The rest of you that's just f--king done.

Your former colleagues have stamina in spades - or at least, more than you do - and imagine a perfect individual that combines their stamina with your enviable potential.

But, that person does not exist. Or at least, if they do, that person isn't you.

There's no point running yourself into the ground trying to meet an ideal that only exists in the minds of other people.

Don't buy into their idealism. At least, not until you're sure you can be the person they think you can be.

Source: I was in a similar situation, but kept going, burned out and am not OK.

Show threadFlaxDec 8
Shouldn’t they pay you more if that’s the case?