potoooooooo ✅️Honestly, we're just looking to go in a new direction with different positions.
voxthefoxThats because they are afraid you’re going to lose it and verbally, physically or mentally abuse them.
I had a friend call me one night because she said no to a guy and he started threatening to kill himself. Like damn. That’s some insane guilt-tripping, manipulative bullshit right out the gate. And this wasn’t the first time this happened to her too.
She called someone who she trusts in a time when she needed support. I made sure she was safe, calm and around people she felt safe being around for the rest of the night.
Before that night, we became our own little mental health support group so of course I’m going to make sure she feels safe after dealing with some unhinged shit like how that guy was acting.
Also she lives in a different country, her life is her own as much as my life is my own in my own country. It’s possible for two people to be friends, care for each other and not expect to be in an intimate or romantic relationship with each other.
Aaah sorry, I thought the earlier comment initially came off as dismissive towards my friend. All good.
I don’t recall what my friend said but dude got kicked out of the glow-in-the-dark mini golf place and she got to have his drink for free before finding her safe friends again. Problem solved itself fortunately.
Wait, aren’t women the ones more likely to use emotional manipulation though?
A small group of idiots can do a disproportionate amount of damage. These men can’t get and keep a lady, so go on a disproportionate number of first dates.
It’s the same with the inverse, “bunny boilers”. Far more men have been on the receiving end than most women expect. For women it’s even more extreme. It takes a woman a while to build to that emotional state. The male equivalent can go bang after just a few messages, or a single date.
I mean, they started with “a few of”.
For those who didn’t know,
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A “bunny boiler” is a slang term for a dangerously obsessive, vengeful person (usually a woman) spurned by a lover, originating from the iconic 1987 film Fatal Attraction, where Glenn Close’s character boils a pet rabbit to terrorize her ex-lover’s family. The term describes an unstable individual prone to extreme, often violent, emotional outbursts after rejection, becoming a cultural shorthand for such behavior.
lumpenproletariatAnd this shit?
The male equivalent can go bang after just a few messages, or a single date.
That’s only if you need women that badly, or men, or anything.
I just need my fellow male co-workers to stop being toxic, or threatening to do things to me.
I need my male friends to stop tearing me down too (taken care of, went no contact).
I got decent friends, but I’m stuck with certain crude co-workers who display disgusting behavior (like insisting I grab my female co-worker by the pussy, and so on).
What kind of 3rd world country do you work in? Any many doing that shit would be fired so fast here its not funny.
Oh you know, Serbia. Can someone just nuke us already please? If there is an invasion, I’m helping it out.
In my experience as a bi-woman, no. There are equally as many emotionally manipulative men and women. For men it often takes the form of “If you don’t do this physical thing (kiss, sex etc), you don’t like me.” or “If you ask for this security measure (meeting at a public place, using condomes), you don’t really like me.”
What are you basing this on
Aren’t all the claims in this thread baseless?
Seems people missed the point lmfao.
Oh please, not every bitchass is worth worrying about. Just be smart and armed.
Evkob (they/them)My mom did this in high school when a guy who was stalking her threatened to kill himself.
He’s still alive, over thirty years later.
JackbyDevThat reminds me of one of my ex’s, she did far worse things but that shit still fucked with my head a lot too.
sp3ctr4lLol, a suicide threat was just my average day in the life, growing up in an immensely dysfunctional family.
And uh, not just cries for attention type shit, had to talk knives away from people’s own throats… I think at least twice, somebody would have OD’d so hard they’d have died if not for me stabilizing them and calling an ambulance.
… I’m enjoying being a hermit these days, and will not be continuing my genetic line.
If you live in a civilized nation call the police immediately. If it is a real they will save him, if it is not, he will get prosecuted (threatening to take ones life is a form of black mail). Also the necessary people who can help you and him will get informed.
A friend of mine actually did this and it resolved the situation. He had a talk with the police, admitted the mistake and never did something like that (to her) again.
Ah yes, the police, the institution that is widely respected as being effective at ending domestic violence, filled with people who would never perpetrate such domestic violence themselves.
Yeah yeah all men are shit./s
SarcasmoFind an HR person to begin with. Sign off that you watched the videos and stuff like this won’t happen.
Men: crash out when they get ghosted
Also men:
Didn’t see the emoji. Glad he’s not being salty
LuciIndeed
Captain AggravatedHopefully amusing aside: When I first got into SG-1 I was taking French classes in high school, so in my head I always spelled in “Jaffa, Cris!”
So, ghosting is bad and evil. At least tell the man you aren’t interested! Men are suffering due to ghosting! But also, don’t put him down when rejecting him. Men have to suffer so much rejection, so their ego is easily hurt. Let him down gently!!
Oh, you did? Well let me mock you for being TOO nice and diplomatic about it 😂.
Damn I’m so happy I’m not dating anymore. Feels like no way to do it right.
Fair enough statement about some of the comments here, but at least the original poster in the screenshot is taking it in good stride like you’re supposed to with a polite rejection.
There isn’t a way to do it right. Dating doesn’t work. People are too garbage for it.
saarthIt reads as very inauthentic. Just like HR workers who pretend to be nice (and on your side) while prioritising the company’s interests over yours.
Why is thanking someone for their time and hoping they find someone new inauthentic to you? Choosing not to date someone any longer isn’t hostile.
Because who uses “thank you for taking the time to get to know each other” in common everyday usage?
It’s not a common everyday thing to tell someone that because it’s not a common everyday thing to stop dating someone. Why is it so hard to imagine that the person is thankful for the time they spent together?