This is my favorite thing to show people when they never ask.
So, what would you like to show us?

From my reading of social media there are two kinds of neurodivergents: 1) hates showing, most unpleasant experience, sensory overload 2) loves showing, could live in the shower, sometimes exits the shower and realises that they forgot to wash their hair or soap up or something. Only misses their daily shower when they are very busy and can’t find an hour in their schedules.

You may be a neurotypical if you:

  • shower each day
  • complete your shower in less than 10 minutes
  • don’t forget any of the 1-3 things you are supposed to do in the shower
  • have no strong feelings about showering
I’ve been known to shower until the hot water runs out. I’ve been known to fall asleep in the shower. I love showers.

Sleeping in the shower! Do you then wake up when you start gurgling?

If you want a good night’s sleep in the shower then get one of those continuous water heaters, or a recirculation shower to save on the water and energy.

I’m suddenly buying a house in extreme need of repairs (including the bathroom), so I’ll look into it, thanks!

I think there’s two ways to do that.

  • A simple heat exchanger from the drain to the cold water running to the shower. A thermostat on the shower reduces the amount of hot water you use as the cold water gets warmer.
  • Recovering water from the drain to go into the shower again, probably via reverse osmosis.
  • Second option requires maintenance and a bunch of engineering. Unless there’s a massive lack of water where you live and you have lots of money.

    First option… Well, it requires more piping and that the drain pipe is a heat exchanging pipe - a pipe within a pipe where the cold water is in the outermost pipe, running in the opposite direction of the drain water. I’m not sure how much heat you would recover. The floor of the shower might need to be a bit higher than otherwise. And if you have hard water then I wouldn’t do it. When you heat cold, hard water the calcium carbonate precipitates and you get limescale. To avoid reducing heat exchange efficiency and avoid clogs you would have to descale regularly and it’s just not very accessible. With normal descaling you can remove a lot mechanically but here it would have to be all chemical. And how would you even get the descaler into those pipes?

    Tl;dr don’t do option 1, only do option 2 if you have very soft water.

    A recovering water system. I can finally have a real golden shower! /s

    A simple heat exchanger from the drain to the cold water running to the shower.

    This is very much a thing! Here’s a DOE explainer page and here’s a Home Depot listing

    I think the usual way these are installed is they go in the basement with the drain portion going between the sewers and the house’s various drains and the fresh water portion going before the water heater to pre-heat the ground-temperature water before it enters the tank (although the DOE’s diagram indicates it pre-heats all fresh water entering the house, thereby also warming the cold water, which is probably great for showering, but not when getting a glass of cold water while the dishwasher or clothes washer are running)

    Drain-Water Heat Recovery

    Did you know that you can use heat from water that you've already used to preheat more hot water -- and reduce your water heating costs?

    Energy.gov
    The Smarter Way to Shower

    RainStick Shower

    Damn, that’s cool.

    Damn, that’s expensive.

    But what if you puss in the shower? Or worse …
    It goes on at length about how the myriad filters remove everything. I hadn’t thought about that, but I don’t think it would clean the water THAT good.
    If it’s reverse osmosis literally only water can pass through.
    Can you imagine how much pressure the shower would have to generate to get enough flow through a single or even multiple RO filters to be able to recirculate the same shower water. It’s not going to be RO, 5 micron pre-filter and some type of carbon filter. A glorified Brita shower.
    I’ve thought that if I were heavily renovating or building I’d want to strongly consider putting a tankless waterheater just for the shower. Main water heater does its job but can be set to a good handwashing temp but the shower never runs out of hot and is set hot enough for both myself and my wife.
    I don’t know how much neurodivergence factors into it, though Im sure it does. Plenty of these sort of people think they only need to shower once every week or two because they don’t smell and usually insist they have “good hygiene” despite that. Some just straight up can’t be bothered. Both types tend to not have very many friends; who would ideally inform them that they stink.

    Imagine finding out you are neurotypical :(

    Is there anything a person can do if they find out they or their child is neurotypical?

    10 minutes

    How do you wash in that time? That’s just enough to get wet.

    5 minutes baby. Military taught me to eat fast, shower fast, fall asleep fast, and clean like i have OCD
    I should have gone to the military, like I wanted to. When I finished school, I wanted to serve to learn discipline, order, and structure. My parents are both strict pacifists and had dragged me to peace protests from a young age. I didn’t want to break their heart, so an undisciplined civilian life it was. Still lacking discipline, order, and difficulty sleeping.
    I don’t known why people are down voting you. You do you. If you want to shoot a gun, go bet one and blast away. If you want to blow shit up, umm I can’t help you.
    They can get a blaster’s license and work in demolition, or mining.

    If you really want to fight someone else’s war then you can go do that now.

    Buddy is 43. He just enrolled. Going to be a shit show but he’s doing it.

    Army takes up to 36, and they’re decently disciplined. May have missed the boat on Marines though, and that’s where the true brainwashing occurs, in my opinion. And I don’t mean brainwashing making you want to kill and love war, I’m not fond of either, less so after than before. But structure is a very real thing, and developing good habits.
    I’m already over 40. Thank you.
    You did your service faithfully! It’s time to relax and show down now, you deserve it…
    I’ve been out for 25 years I’ll still be the first to finish a meal even if I sit down last and they give me a kids fork.

    I shower in less than 10:

    • Heat water while I undress
    • Change water to cold, wet my hair only (dyed hair is a pain, god bless it’s short)
    • Shampoo hair, Clear, apply conditioner
    • Change water to hot again, wet rest of body
    • Stop water, apply gel in body
    • Hot water, rinse body
    • Cold water, rinse head
    • Get out.

    That’s like 8 mins, maybe 9 because I spend 2 with my hair, maybe 10 because I spend 2 mins wetting my body to heat it up.

    Ofc, if I’m feeling cold I end up spending way longer in the wet body phase.

    I had a boyfriend that HAD to shower everytime he pooped. He couldn’t poop anywhere he wouldn’t be able to shower or he would be annoying until we got home. He also had IBS. Lovely time I had

    You should’ve bought that boy a bidet. That’s probably what he wanted.

    Rather than shit steam your bathroom

    Oh no. We have a bidet shower (bum gun), he just wouldn’t use. He said it didn’t felt clean enough. He wasn’t a germophobe but I guess he couldn’t handle poop lol. At lease he wasn’t one of those “real men don’t clean” gang

    You may be a neurotypical if you:

    Showering properly is one of the few things I do consistently, because if I'm not doing something outdoors like hiking or camping then my stinky bits annoy me.

    Lol, I love the PSA-style “You may be neurotypical if…”
    Nah cause I’m both of those. I want nothing to do with a shower until I get in and then I’ll stay there until I run through 50 gallons of near boiling water. And then as the water starts turning cold I realize I haven’t even washed yet.
    From this alone, I’ll diagnose you with ADHD.
    This is way too general. Like I get its a joke, but I don’t think anyone showers super quickly unless they are time pressed
    I came here just to check out if somebody already did it and I was not disappointed xD

    LOL, had to do it! Template for anyone who wants to add Sid to a shameful situation (low-rez, sadly):

    Perfect size for posting though
    OMG that man is a legend!
    Like most signs, this will be ignored by the people it’s intended for.
    They’re all going to be "dammit what time is it? Anyone got a calculator? "
    The point of the sign is to avoid them getting angry when you throw them out. They will, but others in the store will back you up.
    You don’t need a sign for people to be happy that King Shit is getting kicked out.
    No, but you need it to show it to him on the way out.

    That’s just not how interacting with humans works though.

    Chances are there are several individuals who visit this shop with “offensive” hygiene.

    The sign isn’t going to stop them coming in.

    When you say “hey fuck off stinky”, they’re going to react badly. Pointing to the sign isn’t going to make them any less reactive or defensive.

    The correct way to handle this is to pull them aside, tell them you really appreciate them visiting the store, they’re really into the hobby and a key part of the local scene or whatever, but last time they came in a few other customers mentioned their hygiene.

    I totally understand that most people don’t want to have that second interaction, that’s fine.

    My point is, in either approach the sign doesn’t help.

    The sign is to prevent them from claiming they didn’t know.

    The assholes who still get angry can look for a different store to shop in.

    Plenty of people don’t start to smell bad 24h after a shower, with or without deodorant. In winter, I’d guess it’s actually most people.

    I try to shower as infrequently as I can without stinking because it fucks up my skin every single time.

    Are you, by any chance, showering with hot water? It’s said that warmer/hotter water dries out the skin more.
    Well I’m certainly not taking a cold shower in winter! I don’t have a thermostatic shower tap so don’t know what temperature it is, but I guess I have it at about body temperature… Not sure if that is as hot as you mean.

    LMAO.

    And plenty of people do start smelling bad 24 hours after not showering with or without deodorant. Out is actually most people…

    I’m sure plenty of people do, maybe you’re even one of them, but turning this into blanket statements is weird and annoying. How many people think, because of the culture embodied in this sign, that they must shower every day, and never even check?

    Blah blah cultural embodied… blah blah What are you babbling about?

    if you don’t shower daily you reek like shit /FULL STOP

    I am sorry about yoru skin condition, Have you experimented with different soaps and or consulted a dermatologist?

    I’m sorry about how rapidly you stink, have you experimented with different deodorants or consulted a doctor?
    Have you thought that they might have already and it was no help?
    And that’s the reason it wss a question