wednesday the valkyrjai hate running into just some random ass racism online.
it can be hard to look away, even though i am doing myself no favors by looking at it.
i replied snarkily to the Black people in the thread tryna get brownie points from yt folks.
coonery ain't cute and you make us look bad, not the other way around.
i just replied to one with "your momma yt, ain't she?" because i can just tell. it's not considered appropriate to say, but Black people can tell, it's a real phenomenon.
i am Black = Black momma
i'm biracial/mixed = white momma
that's an easy one.
do not speak on Black issues with authority if you can't say you're Black.
that goes ofc just for Black people with a white parent, however. i understand that other multi-ethnic people exist.
my white passing friend with a Black mom conducts herself in an entirely different way than many non-white passing mixed/biracial people with white moms.
and like. it's based in racial trauma a lot of the times. a kind which i cannot relate to. i see that.
but (often) still stfu. doesn't excuse anti-Blackness.
it isn’t everyone. but it's a lot of people.
if a person can say they're Black, and see themself as Black, it's nbd. whichever parent it is.
but if one needs to say "biracial" or "mixed" and can't ever say Black (which does not mean they aren't those things), they should get some Black friends and get it together.
also deeply connected to gendered parenting expectations.
mom often does the primary child rearing. children generally spend more time with mom. doesn't have to be this way, but for societal reasons, it often is. i'd argue that many times, mom's culture is more dominant in the household.
so it's not some, intrinsic thing. it's all social.
more importantly, BM/WW relationships often involve misogynoir on both parts.
not always, or even mostly, but common.