Max LeibmanOct 11
I was accused of mansplaining on Mastodon once*.

I was hurt. I felt like she had misread my tone, misunderstood my intent. I felt like I was making a positive contribution to the discussion. I didn't think I had done anything wrong.

So you know what I did?

I deleted my post, acknowledged I was wrong, and apologized.

Sometimes, what we do is the effect it has on others. And I've surely gotten away with mansplaining enough times to make up for taking the L once.
Show threadDavid H. McCoyOct 11

@maxleibman

I had someone say that the me on a tech post. I asked her if she was “White-splaining” to me.

My take is I can engage in a tech discussion without such an offensive accusation.

Show threadMax LeibmanOct 11
@davidhmccoy Fair enough! Don't take this is a blanket statement that every time the word is invoked it should be treated as sacrosanct truth. Just that some of us (read: me) need to be intentional about not immediately getting defensive about it.
Show threadDavid H. McCoy

@maxleibman

Agreed.

The worst part of my exchange ( I didn’t start with the white-splain line) was the unwillingness to let me clarify. Then, some rando dude jumped on and went right to rudeness and mouthing off to me.

Him I told to just “eff off.” People really do say things online that they would never say to your face.

Oct 11 at 8:34pmWeb