I respect it. I’m not looking to be served by an outright asshole, but I’m no fan of servility or unnecessary deference. As long as he gets the job done, he’s welcome at the table any time. Hell, join us for the meal, make light conversation about the history of the place. It’d be memorable.
It’s a complete breach of basic social etiquette to sit down at somebody’s table and talk to them like you know them, it’s baffling to me that you don’t get that- actually it’s not that baffling really