liyah27Aug 14, 2025

Should I tell my 13 year old son about my job?

https://lemmy.world/post/34436931

Should I tell my 13 year old son about my job? - Lemmy.World

I’m a single mom to a 13 year old teen and we live in a bad area. I work two jobs to pay the bills. I’m currently a barista and at night I’m a dancer/stripper at a nightclub. I haven’t really told him about my night job yet, since I’ve just played it off as being a waitress. I feel like he’s gotten kind of mature now, but I also am kind of scared he might judge me or it might affect our relationship.

Show threadSolidShakeAug 14, 2025
Nope
Show threadsimpleAug 14, 2025
but also he's still going to judge you.
Show threadRegnaAug 14, 2025
Why would her son judge her negatively? Or do you mean he would appreciate how hard she works to make their life bearable?
Show threadBeaconAug 14, 2025
Are you serious? Teens massively judge everyone about everything. They especially judge their parents
Show threadRegnaAug 14, 2025
Of course they will in stable families, especially with religious upbringing, but it’s way less likely when they grow up with a single parent who has to do things they dislike to keep their kids fed and clothed.
Show threadBeaconAug 14, 2025
An interesting hypothesis. I could potentially believe that, but I'd need some non-anecdote evidence before i do. I can imagine it being true, but i can also imagine it being false
Show threadRegnaAug 14, 2025

I was not aware of previous post history.

One; people doing non-damaging things to help their kids and them survive should never be shameful in any society. If it means they need to damage themselves in the process of survival for their kids there is way more wrong in their community and society than there should be.

Two; people doing fun stuff for themselves for kinks and jollies as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone or place them in weird circumstances or is like meh, let them be embarrassing.

Three; people doing weird shit that hurts their kids or other people mentally, physically or otherwise … fuck you.

Four: fuck trolls that try to justify CSAM or exposure.

Show threadBeacon
Did you mean to reply to a different comment?
Aug 14, 2025 at 6:25pmWeb
Show threadRegnaAug 14, 2025
No, I replied caustically at first to your last comments and then reread a lot of other comments and ops history and was disappointed in that we’ve gotten down to a Reddit level of toxicity. So I backed down and was just generally hurt at how we can be as societies. So please disregard all of this.