Oh, also, since I've got you here:

That weird sex thing you're super ashamed of, and have never told a soul that you're into?

Like half of your friends are into it too, and are just as scared of saying anything. You could be having an interesting conversation with them right now.

Just sayin'.

It might be a quarter. But statistically, from what the research says about kink? Unless you're a shut-in, *someone* you're friends with is into it, pretty much guaranteed.

Shame sucks. Sure, talk in private, but it's just sex. It's not that big a deal.

Signed: a gal who's ace-spectrum.

@Impossible_PhD Gender is like a soda fountain. Not only is there more than two flavors but you're free (even encouraged) to mix and match and have as much or as little as you want.

Also, free refills! You can always go back for more or a different gender if you don't like the one you concocted last time you were at the gender fountain.