Doc ImpossibleHey.
Hey, you.
Yeah, you. The person reading this. You, specifically.
Be messier and weirder. Fuck up more. And cut people a break when they're messy and weird and fuck up, if you can.
Queerness is about being messy.
Oh, also, since I've got you here:
That weird sex thing you're super ashamed of, and have never told a soul that you're into?
Like half of your friends are into it too, and are just as scared of saying anything. You could be having an interesting conversation with them right now.
Just sayin'.
It might be a quarter. But statistically, from what the research says about kink? Unless you're a shut-in, *someone* you're friends with is into it, pretty much guaranteed.
Shame sucks. Sure, talk in private, but it's just sex. It's not that big a deal.
Signed: a gal who's ace-spectrum.
BewilderedKat 
@Impossible_PhD
Also, kink doesn't have to be sexual. Almost all the kink stuff I do is non-sexual. People wouldn't know that if they haven't explored. I endorse this suggestion to just talk about things with friends.
Also, I will volunteer to hop in a group chat and shamelessly talk about kink or sexuality if it helps break the seal.
Signed: An enby that's aro-ace-spec
DickyFilm š³š±š@h3mmy @Impossible_PhD Any books or website recommendations please? Iād love to learn more.
@DickyFilm Well, I have a small series of write-ups: https://lgbtqia.space/@h3mmy/114744144317817633
I am not aware of any books dedicated to asexuality in kink specifically, at the moment. A lot of that sort of knowledge is still percolating in various communities, online and offline. I can easily find discussions about it, but it seems there is actually a need for some sort of compiled version of the takeaways from those discussions.
If you want a book about asexuality in general, "Ace" by Angela Chen is a classic and excellent start. For aromanticism, "Hopelessly Aromantic" by Samantha Rendle really gave me a lot of validation when I was wondering what the heck it means to be aro. "The Other Significant Others" by Rhaina Cohen is an excellent book about the significant relationships we foster and how a normative labeling and/or hierarchy system fails us as social creatures. I cried a lot during that read from all the suspended grief, so forewarning in case that's notable.
BewilderedKat :nonbinary_flag: (@[email protected])
Content warning: Discussion of words, kink, and non-sexual kink