Happy Father’s Day to all the dads out there!
As another year passes, I continue to realize the complicated relationship I had with my own dad and the often shitty behaviors and thinking patterns I learned from him.
It got bad enough that I started therapy a few years ago. I’m so glad I did. I’m far from where I want to be, but I’m better than I was, and I’m a better father for it.
I always prided myself on being able to figure out complex problems. I felt I could figure out what was going on that was driving my bad behavior.
But it was like trying to debug a program in an OS I didn’t know and a language I didn’t write. I didn’t know where to start or what questions to ask. My therapist did, and it has helped so much.
Don’t be like me if you have something like this. You owe it to yourself and the people around you to get help and get better.
Steve Moseley