Keishin
Vivian, Venus Pirate 🏳️⚧️
icastico@Willow
Will do.
Ryan The Red 🖥️🚲🍺🏳️🌈@Willow Thankfully our local pride parade has been very peaceful, but I will be there right beside you.
Clinton Anderson SwordForHireThey have to get through me to get to you.
Sonikku@Willow
What a clever idea
What a clever idea
Cait the Proud Trans WomanYep. Cis men, please, you've been asking how you can be allies. Here is a way you can be an ally. As Willow suggested, show up at #trans Pride events, AND PROTESTS, for us. Make us have greater numbers.
And put your bodies between ours and the police and other transphobes. Let them see that *we have support*. And if they come for us, slow them down so we can get away. Or, if I know my community well, and I think I do, to reorganise, form up, and come back fighting.
Democracy Dies in Dumbass@Willow Don't get me wrong, I love you guys, I'm a firm supporter, but you lost me at "events" because that sounds a little too peopley for me...
This (Mastodon) is about where my level of social engagement hits a limit.
Agoraphobics are people too... ;-)
If you wanted to know what a #ReplyGuy looks like, scroll up one post in this thread.
Sym (public node) 
@Willow Unfortunately I can't, as that tool's posts don't load on Anarres for some reason.
Sorry you're getting creeps in your mentions over this. 
Pwassonchat the enby catboy@ShredderFeeder @Willow Pride is inaccessible to lots of people, including many disabled and/or neurodivergent LGBTQIA+ people. It's a real issue, but I don't see "allies" talking about it unless it's to talk about themselves.
➴➴➴Æ🜔Ɲ.Ƈꭚ⍴𝔥єɼ👩🏻💻@Willow I mean, maybe some of you can hit on some of us...
Just sayin...
craignicol@Willow "but where" UK edition https://pridedates.co.uk/
SearingTruth"I did not like them. I did not like what they said. I did not like the way they said it.
But I let them speak anyway, and offered protection against those who would have them silenced."
SearingTruth
Shalien@Willow true question, is there a way to be known as Ally? I can't take it anymore to just being call a fraud when I try to step up for the community
@shalien I’m feeling unusually generous, so I’ll answer this.
First, no. “Ally” is actually just something we let ya’ll think is real, there are accomplices, who have placed their skin in the game, and everyone else.
Second, accomplices understand that the community will always view them with suspicion, and they step the fuck up anyway, because it’s the right thing to do.
Third, don’t be a #ReplyGuy, it’s a bad look for you. It’s why my tone in this reply is so acerbic.
Fourth, asking marginalized people to explain this shit is a way of pushing labor on to us. I’m bothering since this post got big and maybe someone else will see this exchange and also learn something.
Finally, when we literally ask for help/involvement/volunteers, take it both seriously and literally. To wit, go read this, please: https://chaosfem.tw/@Willow/113856069628799346
Willow, Venus Pirate 🏳️⚧️ (@[email protected])
Lift your eye from the palantir - you will not defeat Sauron. #ThingsYouCantUnsay Do not speak to me of how you can do nothing to turn the ship of state. I care nothing for your impotency. You abdicate your responsibility by widening your gaze. Who are you to speak to me of the horrors of national policy? A legislator? No? Then do not clothe yourself in the false agency of your inability to change that which is entirely beyond your reach. But you can make sure bigots at the grocery store stay quiet in the dairy aisle. You can rebuke the old men who insult young fathers for caring for their children. You can ask trans women in the women’s bathroom where they got their nail polish. You can invite trans men on your guys-only fishing trip. You can watch a mother’s kids for her while she goes back into the school to find a lost jacket instead of criticizing her parenting. You can accept that everyone whose pronoun is the singular “they” already knows all your petty objections to it and just… use “they” for them. You can assume everyone you meet has a right to live where they live. You can make it weird when people try to use “gay” as an insult. You can listen to kids when they want to tell you about their niche special interest. You can tell men you think it’s gross when they touch waitresses. You can make the experience of being in your presence more friendly and less hostile to the kinds of people being oppressed by the state. THAT is what is within your reach. THAT is your responsibility. And I expect you to see to it that it gets done, and that you remind others of THEIR responsibilities.
SleepyCatten (Joint Pain Arc)@shalien Look at David Tennant's actions and take notes 
e.g.,
David Tennant vs. The Transphobes (The Ally We Deserve)
Paul Williams@Willow @SleepyCatten I saw this advice and thought sure, I can do that. Then find out Pride is in November in Australia. So I’ll do it then. A bit weird to do a pride parade on my own now.
