Laura Manach 
Xana
Boots Chantilly@Xana Tubal ligation isn’t 100% effective (& can result in ectopic pregnancy, which ends in death in this political climate), & they’re EXTREMELY difficult to access unless you’re over 35 & already have children. @cmconseils
Dinah 🕊🇺🇦@BootsChantilly @Xana @cmconseils It took me 10 years to talk a doctor into giving me my tubal ligation. I can only hope it's gotten easier, but I very much doubt it.
@metagrrrl It took me 2 yrs. And I was 25, divorced, w/ one kid. I don’t know that it’s gotten easier, but there is a running thread on Reddit of OB/GYNs that will tie one’s tubes upon request w/o a bunch of bs. I got pregnant after my tubal, tho—3 in 100 do. So it’s not as uncommon as folks think. @Xana @cmconseils
Erin@BootsChantilly @metagrrrl @Xana @cmconseils I think it’s gotten better (depending on your location). I was approved after 1 visit and had my surgery a few months later. 31, never married, just told my gyn that I didn’t want kids. They also opt to take the tubes entirely now to help with ectopic pregnancy risk.
@quietewe The doc who finally did my tubal agreed to cut & cauterize. Turns out, he only looped & banded each tube. One of the bands pooped off. I got pregnant. I didn’t find out what he’d done until I had my hysterectomy (a diff OB/GYN) in 2010. I still get srsly stabby when I think about it. @metagrrrl @Xana @cmconseils
`Da Elf@BootsChantilly @metagrrrl @Xana @cmconseils Mea Madre solved the problem after I was born, after her divorced, and she threatened to castrate the doctor (had a rather nice Spiderco knife on her at the time). Still took ten years.
The excuse: "You might remarry and your husband might want children." Cue my mother going nuclear, "I don't give a fuck what he wants, had a kid, *I'm* done."
That was some forty years ago and I cannot even imagine that it's gotten anything but much, Much worse.
@elfin I'd assume it's getting worse in this political climate. I was told the same thing as your mom over & over. "What happens when you meet a nice man who wants babies?" I always answered that he'd have to figure out how to have & care for them bc I didn't want anymore. I'm 63 now--I never changed my mind. + @metagrrrl @Xana @cmconseils
@BootsChantilly @metagrrrl @Xana @cmconseils My mother is 70. She adopted a stray cat recently after a series of rescued Labradors. I like her solution (says the only child).
@elfin But it boggles my mind. Prioritizing some hypothetical man over my very real wants & needs? Holy crap, the misogyny is out of control in medicine. & bottom line, a "nice" man wouldn't pressure me to have babies I didn't want. UGH. /end @metagrrrl @Xana @cmconseils