I whish this article could be mandatory reading to those joining the Fediverse (& on all social platforms), & it was a good reminder for me on my own interactions.

"But rather than a naively utopian, Pollyannaish approach to debate, Dennett points out this is actually a sound psychological strategy that accomplishes one key thing: It transforms your opponent into a more receptive audience for your criticism or dissent, which in turn helps advance the discussion."

https://www.themarginalian.org/2014/03/28/daniel-dennett-rapoport-rules-criticism/