Deviant OllamApr 19, 2025

"Learn the difference between 'helping' and being 'helpy'"

~ @wendynather at #BSidesSEA

(If all you are doing is pointing at things and saying "look I found all these problems" you're not helping, you're being helpy... Being "helpy" allows you to claim that you're part of the process and a valuable part of the team and it makes you visible in meetings but doesn't actually improve anything.)

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@deviantollam @wendynather can I add another definition of "helpy"? When you go around doing a bunch of things that aren't actually helpful then expect full credit because "at least I tried". Yes, trying is better than not trying. But if you didn't actually improve my situation yet still expect reciprocation for your effort, you're leaving me at a deficit. Worst kind of people to have around when you're ill/burnt out
Apr 19, 2025 at 6:36pmTusky