True story time, from about 8 years ago.
After work, I joined few co-workers for happy hour. I had 1 or 2 alcoholic drinks, then cut myself off and drank soda rest of the night, for many reasons including I wanted to be 100% sober to drive home.
One guy was rude, insisted I keep drinking, said I was ruining the fun.
Kids, be your own person. Be stubborn. Don't let someone pressure you into doing something you don't want to do. No means no.
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Everyone else was fine with me not drinking alcohol.
After I insisted on saying no, rude guy fetched next round of drinks. My "soda" was in short glass. Quick whiff confirmed it was soda with liquor. I declared what it was, said I wouldn't drink it, & offered it to anyone else at the table.
He became a total ass when I did that. He lied saying there's no alcohol in it. Kept trying to shove drink in my hand and insist I drink it. Called me a pussy. I excused myself and left.
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Next morning, one person in the group, "Bob", had a black eye!!!
Bob said after I left, the group quickly dwindled until it was just Bob & rude guy. Bob finished his drink & left. Rude guy followed him and tried to convince him to go to another bar. When Bob insisted on going home, rude guy punched him & ran away.
I offered to go to HR together to report rude guy, but Bob didn't want to. I didn't like it but respected his choice. We stopped associating with rude guy.
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@scottmiller42
Yeah, those are the sort of people you are best staying away from, even if it means ending a night early.
Women are usually more keenly aware of this sort of behavior for obvious (survival) reasons, but it doesn't matter who you are: someone who acts that way is not safe and cannot be trusted.
Scott Miller 🇺🇦 🇺🇸
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