Hey queer ladies and thems of Fedi, help a babe out?

I'm starting to see just how much I have to fight and push against as a 37yo AuDHD bi woman, like, just obviously:

A multi-curbstomp of CompHet & boomer parents + the hyperfocus and stim seeking of the AuDHD + sad childhood & told boys had the answer = hard as fuck to shift gears I WANT to shift

The barriers are enormous, and I often feel sad and alone

So um...give a flirt and a wink? A warm embrace? Some love?

Thank!