greatblueheronJan 10, 2025
tomate 🍅

I have #adhd so never say „we need to talk“ without saying that I am not in trouble. My rejection sensitivity dysphoria will run rampant and I will go through every interaction we ever had in my head trying to find the situation I did something wrong while experiencing anxiety.

Or tell me I am in trouble and why. We can discuss that later but I need to know.

Jan 10, 2025 at 7:45amWeb
Show threaddohseJan 10, 2025
@jascha I can relate to that
Show threadQuincy ⁂Jan 10, 2025
@dohse @jascha me too
Show threadjorikiJan 10, 2025

@jascha

them: we need to talk

me:

Show threadorangerkaterJan 10, 2025
@jascha
Show threadAutoerotic DefenestrationJan 10, 2025
@jascha me too :-)
Show threadCegorachJan 10, 2025

@jascha pretty sure it works in non-adhd-people the same way

"we need to talk" is always implying "you are in trouble" or at least "I will tell you something negative"

Show threadtomate 🍅Jan 10, 2025
@drazraeltod From my observation over the last 30 years: Most neurotypical person do not bother when you tell them "We need to talk. Let's do that tomoow".
Show threadCegorachJan 10, 2025

@jascha well, I for sure do.

And I'd guess most people won't tell you about it, but WILL be stressed about it. (maybe less than you or me, but a slight bit of stress will be there)

Show threadben_tincJan 11, 2025
@drazraeltod @jascha
A lot of good practices, which are especially relevant in ADHD contexts, are thankfully also good things to do in general.
Show threadEin PhilosophikerJan 10, 2025
@jascha Hey, that is exactly my own reaction of such a sentence...?
Show threadJAK & WilliJan 10, 2025
@jascha Sounds like me
Show threadRobert DresdenJan 10, 2025
@jascha this