I never really understood why people misunderstand or denounce the experience of ace people…

Ignoring some nuance, it feels like it’s simply “feels no or reduced sexual attraction”. That sounds pretty clear to me; that feeling you get when you look at a pretty lady? They don’t experience that.

Yet there’s always statements like “but they have sex!”, “But they like being tied up!” and “They’re in a relationship!”. People gotta overcomplicate things or look for reasons to discredit them, I guess?

Surely you see how saying “I don’t like sex” and “I have sex” seem contradictory, right? If you express those two ideas how is it not logical to conclude that you’re either just an idiot or are talking about rape? How does those two statements lead to the conclusion of “you most be asexual”?

If your a person who has sex, what makes you asexual and not a person with low libido?

As I understand it, some ace people find sex gross and obviously want to avoid anything relating to it it, but some are neutral towards it. If they are with a partner that likes sex, then they may enjoy having sex because it makes their partner happy. Or maybe they find the physical sensations enjoyable, but not looking at porn/people. Or maybe they just want to do it for good prostate health.

They are not contradictory because “I don’t like sex” (which I didn’t actually say) doesn’t necessarily imply “I dislike the idea of sex”.