One of the most insidious ways toxic masculinity fucks over white men is it teaches them that they don't get to have emotions other than the loud, shouty ones. So often white men raised in our culture become uncomfortable with other types of emotion and many white men try to use humo to deal with their discomfort or inability to know what to do and it is really sad. Also exhausting for the person on the other end who is trying to be real and you get... jokes.