@dragonarchitect The way that I like to think about it is this:

You're responsible for what you communicate, /including what you communicate through your jokes/. When a joke is out of line, it's usually not just because it touched upon a sensitive topic or mentioned a minority group, but because it did as much in an insensitive way (or, in an extreme case, the joke may have been used as a vector for dog whistle talking points).

As a case in point, there are plenty of jokes made within the furry fandom (which is predominantly LGBT+) that use gayness or queerness as a focal point. These jokes are rarely problematic, though, because they generally don't depict queerness as being undesirable, malicious, or the entire summation of someone's personality.