natei hate "men bad women good" because it also affects children too, what if they transition later? like me? i had to deconstruct so much gender essentialism bullshit just to start taking testosterone and not feel guilty of just being a man instead of a nonbinary-only creature.
114N@nate There's also the opposite where bc so much bs gender essentialism exists it becomes more difficult to figure out which aspects commonly associated with gender *aren't* bs.
It took WAY too long for me to realize that "wanting to present androgynous" + "wanting to underdose HRT to androgynize" + "wanting to use they/them" = I'm nonbinary, specifically because I had been presented with so much of BS gender essentialism that I was/still am skeptical of the real components of gender.