Let me tell you about wigs as I'm sitting down for a bit. A thread?
Wigs, you can just wear them! There are reasonable quality and high quality ones that you can buy in any length, style and colour you want, and it's a lovely and fairly effort free and cheap way to experiment with different looks. Whether you're doing gender, going to a party or doing a show, it's much easier to buy, brush out, adjust and put on a wig than grow your own - if you even can!
@Triffen There's a huge amount of value that society assigns to having good hair, thick and well kept. Especially women, for a long long time: In a lot of cultures it's referred to as your crown, sometimes literally when you braid it up in a braid crown. It's much worse for women, even with gray hair, and the fairly misogynistic ideal of a "fertile woman" - which is why women cutting off their hair was such a big deal, why wouldn't you advertise that you'd be a good and healthy baby factory, etc. 😄 There's also a lot of ableism there, only sick and feeble people don't have a long glorious locks, and only people who have them are hot! It's a lot.
I could have ended up on medication that makes you lose your hair, so I thought about it a lot. Wearing a wig isn't that different from wearing clothes, since it doesn't go IN your body, just on it. (part 2 incoming)
@Triffen As for men wearing wigs, it has even more of a stigma. Men who have noticeable toupees have been mocked since time immemorial, but also if you're balding that's also mocked. It's terrible! You can't fight genetics, unless you have incredible amounts of money to throw on plastic surgery, or on the Very nice wigs and toupees that are virtually invisible even up close, they just take a lot of money to upkeep. I think it's just seen as shameful to both lose hair, to try to hold onto hair, or to even WANT to look nice. Everything is wrong, except winning the genetic lottery.
Men definitely get a pretty bad hand with this. I wish men could just wear wigs if they wanted to, as well.
@Triffen Good thing you don't have to, then. 😄 On that logic, it's kind of terrible everybody's expected to just have, keep and maintain the hair growing out of their heads! I personally went fuck no to that, and shaved it all off. It's honestly so very nice day to day, I'm lucky it also looks reasonably good on me. The only downside is that it's pretty cold, so when I go outside when cold I have to choose between hat-hat or hair-hat (hats or wigs) because they both do the same job. 😆 It's also so nice to yeet either off when getting home!
I used to get such tension headaches from sitting with henna and a towel on my head, but I did enjoy the process otherwise.
I think society should stop mocking men for things they can't change, and only maybe mock them if they're being horrible assholes, but that's just me. 😶
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