@Tattie @LilahTovMoon I think what you might miss is that at the root of it I *am* blaming men. It's hard to see that I'm blaming men but there is a whole lifelong system built to raise women to participate in what the men are doing, but it IS the men that are the root of the problem. When women aid patriarchy, when women are raised within patriarchy, patriarchy may succeed, but the problem is still patriarchy.