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SleepyCatten (Barely Surviving Arc)Aug 2, 2024

Hey lovely folks of fedi who are anywhere on the asexual spectrum

A friend of ours¹ thinks they might be asexual, but they're doing the doubting questioning thing (i.e., the thing we mostly all do with sexuality, gender, romanticity, neurodivergence etc.)

Please may we call upon your collective knowledge and experiences to share what asexuality means for you and help us bust some myths for others who might be questioning too?

Thank you kindly in advance

Boosts appreciated

#asexual #demisexual #greysexual #graysexual #queer #LGBTQ+ #LGBTQIA+ #AskFedi

¹ Yes: we genuinely are asking for a friend! We are very much allosexual ourselves 😅😳

Edit: Changed the link, per a recommendation for a better wiki page 🥰

Edit 2: Thank you to all your varied answers so far! Please keep them coming! Hopefully this will help our friend and others who are questioning. But anyone wondering about us, your experiences very much confirm how allosexual we are 😅😳

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Psotle Aug 2, 2024

@SleepyCatten

Asexuality for me means I just don't relate to sex in the way most people do. I'm not adverse to sexual contact and I do get aroused, but I never get the spontaneous desire for that directed at a particular person.

Biggest thing is not to sweat it! There's a lot of pressure on people to be sexual and sexually available to others within our society.

Always trust yourself, your own gut, desires and boundaries.

Feel free to pick up and discard labels as you feel they work for you

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jendefer

@SleepyCatten I relate to what @psotle said. #Asexuality is a broad term that covers a lot of variety. For me, I never understood what sexy meant or why so many people seemingly can't resist each other.

It was a relief to find a label to open the conversation with my spouse of ten years. That we didn't need to keep looking for something that worked for me... What works for me is to stop trying. And that's okay! And it's not a rejection of my partner, but an acknowledgement of myself.