dadarobotJul 10, 2024

What are the rules?

https://lemmy.sdf.org/post/19377167

What are the rules? - SDF Chatter

Hello gay people in my phone. My child (16) sort of came out as trans to me today. I have been here for the memes for a while, and ive long been a supporter of gay and trans rights. Do yall have any recommendations of resources for parents of trans kids? I want to help and support them correctly and to the best of my abilities. Looking for maybe books and communities? Thank you.

Show threadStopJoiningWars
And your first thought is to publicly share this extremely private conversation with a bunch of strangers. Are you nuts? Ask for advice from close friends or family, or even a therapist for a modicum of privacy… NOT the internet…
Jul 11, 2024 at 12:45pmWeb
Show threadOokami38Jul 11, 2024

This feels like a bit of an overreaction. There’s no identifying information, this is a small corner of the Internet, and they’re here looking for advice on how to be better able to support the kid.

I’d say if I was the kid and I ran across this post, if anything it’d make me feel like my parent is taking a ton of effort to understand and support me.

Show threadStopJoiningWarsJul 11, 2024
I’d personally lose all trust in my parents and stop telling them anything if I found such a private conversation online.
Show threadvolodya_ilichJul 11, 2024
Cool. I would assume OP knows their children better than you do, given how they came out to them not you.
Show threadStopJoiningWarsJul 11, 2024
Not what this is about. It’s about respect and privacy. You’re making it personal so stop being disingenuous and arguing in bad faith.
Show threadStopJoiningWarsJul 11, 2024
Also I can’t believe the irony of what you’re saying when they didn’t come out to you either?? Yet the messages are now public. That’s what’s wrong here.
Show threadCylustheVirusJul 11, 2024
There is no identifying information and asking an allied community for help us quite reasonable. What a bizarre take.
Show threadStopJoiningWarsJul 11, 2024
You can ask for help without screenshotting the private conversation. Your take it the weird one.
Show threadStopJoiningWarsJul 11, 2024
Also, how did you completely miss the fact that OP has put their face as a profile pic?? Anyone who knows them now knows who the texts are about. OP basically outed them publicly.
Show threadCylustheVirusJul 11, 2024
I’m on a mobile app and my vision is impaired but thanks for the assumptions.
Show threadStopJoiningWarsJul 11, 2024
I should also stop assuming you’ll have any argument in this conversation it seems.
Show threaddadarobotJul 11, 2024

My first thought was “damn i probably have a lot more learning to do” and this is probably the most trans-friendly community im involved in.

I have trans people in my life, but it seemed more respectful to not out my kid to anyone who knows them before they are comfortable coming out themselves.

Yes, perhaps a screenshot was unnecessary, but i wasnt sure if there was some nuance i was missing that yall might have a better eye for.

I understand and appreciate your perspective, however i doubt i would have received such good information had i not posted here. Case in point: a therapist for trans kids recommended a book for me. That is not the type of person i currently have in my life.

I was concerned if i simply googled all this i might get low quality information since its such a controversial topic and many on the right may have poisoned some of the discourse.

I will likely remove this post once i stop getting replies based on your notes.